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10. Avoid having your prep school buddies tell back in the day stories about you.

9. Avoid having talking parrots named “Peepsta” talk shit about you behind your back.

8. Avoid having a one-name professional stage name like Bret, Kippy or Witherspoon.

7. Avoid having white people walk beside you at daytime instead of moving across the street.

6. Avoid having respected rappers like Ice-T, Dr. Dre or Snoop Dogg diss you in a rap song.

5. Avoid starring in a lame-ass movie like “Are We There Yet” and star in a kick-ass tv show like “Law & Order SVU”. (Hey Ice Cube, I applaud the showing of a loving caring black father but overall the movie still sucked! Sorry brother, just telling it like it is! And Ice-T, I love the show and your cop character, Fin Tutuola! From rapping about killing cops to portraying one. You’ve come a long way, baby! In the good sense, of course.)

4. Avoid attending National Organization of Women rallies where you bust out rhymes like “Everybody let’s get this party started! So I want all of ya’ll to say strong confident woman, strong confident woman!” When a more appropriate professional rapper would have busted out a rhyme like “Everybody let’s get this party started! So I want all of ya’ll to say ho! Say ho ho ho ho!” (P.S. Professionalism goes a long way in the rap world!)

3. Avoid ripping off the names of kick-ass legendary actors like “Al Pacino” and going by a totally lame-ass variation of it like “Alpa Chino” in real life or in fictional kick-ass movies like Tropic Thunder. (P.S. This black female writer thinks that talented-ass white actor, Robert Downey Jr. did a totally kick-ass performance as black Sargeant Lincoln O’Siris in the kick-ass movie, Tropic Thunder!)

2. Avoid writing a song for use in real life or in a fictional movie like Tropic Thunder where you repeatedly say, “I love the pussy! Hell yeah! I love the pussy! Hell yeah!” When you clearly love the penis. More specifically former N’Sync boy band member and passable actor, Lance Bass’ penis! (Ewww, gross!)

1. Avoid having a totally talented-ass but scary-ass especially when it comes to his ex-wife, Kim, white rapper like Eminem (a.k.a. Marshall Mathers) give you any kind of praise whatsoever! (P.S. Eminem may be a totally talented-ass scary-ass multi-million dollar numerous number one songs rapper but he is a totally talented-ass scary-ass multi-million dollar numerous number one songs WHITE rapper which to the world of rap which is predominantly BLACK is a total negative. God Bless Rap In America And God Please Eliminate Reverse Racism In America!)

WARNING & SPECIAL NOTE: If you are a BLACK rapper who either is from Stamford Connecticut or has parents with white collar jobs avoid going into rap at all because you’ll never be taken seriously and will be constantly dissed for not being poor or not growing up in a bad neighborhood! But if you are black rappers in the above situations who absolutely insist on going into rap because it is your God given right, then perhaps take a play out of the Black But Totally Middle Class Will Smith Play Book and rap only about things that you know like “Parents Just Don’t Understand” Middle Class Stuff. And in your case black rappers from Stamford Connecticut or whose parents have white collar jobs try rapping about your country club woes or which college should I go to in the fall woes and the rap world just may accept and only snicker a little at you.

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Let’s face it, our first reflex reaction when it comes to hearing something negative is to deny, deny, deny!

No, it can’t happen to me or someone that I love. It only happens to other people.

Next, we cry, then we get mad but eventually we come to the final phase in the grieving process which is acceptance.

Whether the final outcome is good or bad, accepting the inevitable or things that we cannot physically change can not only set us mentally free and give us a unique sort of peace of mind but it can also give us one of the greatest gifts of all, power.

Acceptance gives us the power to get our asses out of bed and fight!

With this new fighting spirit and attitude adjustment, here are a couple of tips to help further aid the acceptance of your sick or aging loved one:

Make Your Sick Or Aging Loved One Do As Much As They Can Do For Themselves!

And I stress the word, “make!” Sometimes good ol’ fashioned encouragement is not enough. Sometimes a person has got to put their foot down. So, do not, I repeat, DO NOT LET YOUR LOVED ONE SIT ON HIS OR HER ASS! If your loved one is physically able or having periods where they are not feeling too nauseous or sickly, make them do certain things for themselves such as light house cleaning or paying the electric bill online. Who cares if they complain, let them! Who cares if they get pissed off at you, let them! Making your loved one do as much as they can do for themselves not only benefits you but them as well by giving them a sense of purpose and renewed sense of self-worth and can help alleviate those feelings of helplessness, even though they may not be able to see it. Bottom line: Make your sick or aging loved one do as much as they possibly can do for themselves!

Seek Out Assistance If You Need It!
Remember, there ain’t no shame in asking for help when you need it regardless if it is only a five minute ride to the doctor’s office. Everybody needs help at some point in their lives and no one person can do it alone all the time. Let’s face it, there are alot of people out there like me who are squeamish when it comes to needles and blood. So i’m a person who definitely needs help when it comes to those things. Get the picture? So ask for help when you need it. Whether the help you seek is from a professional care giver service, an independent home health aid or friend and family members, ask for help if you need it no matter what. Don’t be afraid to ask for help even if your sick or aging loved one doesn’t want you to or gets mad. In this case, compromise or find some common ground by being discreet or choosing together a person or persons that can assist you.

Try To Provide Care For Loved Ones At A Time Most Convenient For You!
I will stress the word, “try.” I know that some people may find that this sounds selfish or self-serving and that this may not be at all entirely possible or realistically in the cards but if you can, try to provide care for your sick or aging loved one at your convenience. It’s good for your psyche. For instance, if you work an eight hour shift, try to take at least a 1 to 2 hour break in between completing tasks for your loved one. Because again, let’s face it, nobody truly wants to work a full-time shift then come home and work another part-time or full-time care giver shift without having some much needed rest or downtime in between.

Don’t Forget To Take Care Of Yourself Too!
So many times we are so busy taking care of someone else’s needs that we neglect our own which is one of the worst things that we can do. If we don’t take care of ourselves then who is going to take care of our sick or aging loved one. They need us as much as we need them. So here’s your personal kick in the ass! Remember to take as many rest breaks as you can throughout the day. Try to eat as healthy as you can and get as much physical exercise too. And if you happen to pass by a pastry shop with a delectable looking chocolate cake in it, go in there and buy yourself a piece. Spoil, reward and do little things for yourself! After all, you deserve it and your sick or aging loved one deserves it too.

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